The Passive-Agressive Man

He seems like such a nice guy. He always let's you pick the restaurant, the movie, he says things like, "whatever you want Babe". His mantra is, "I just go with the flow", or "I'm just kicking back". It's all good, right? Wrong, it is anything but "all good". He waits until there is a conflict,and out of nowhere he'll bring up something that has been festering inside of him, it might be the shitty movie, that you picked, and he had to sit through, or "the worst meal he's ever eaten", as if it's all your fault. Hey...he's the one that let you pick...right? Precisely my point. These kind of men don't take responsibility for making choices they let you do it...they're too busy "going with the flow". Besides, they would much rather stab you in the back if it doesn't go well, but let's face it, it's not about the movie or the dinner, it's about his pent up anger,and his not being able to communicate that effectively. And...they don't tell you then...they usually do it when their friends are around, heck...they even do it when your friends and family are around. Here is an example: I had this long term boyfriend, and we used to watch "Everybody Loves Raymond" every night (reruns of course), it was my favorite show at the time. TWO YEARS LATER...He brings up,"I hate that show, I've never liked that show!" What? Now...I ask you...Why the hell would anybody watch a T.V. show EVERYDAY that they didn't like? Am I supposed to feel bad? I didn't tie him up and make him watch it! Who's the IDIOT who sat there and watched it, and didn't say anything? That was just one of many incidents that led to our demise. I couldn't live with someone who was always holding things in, and saving them to get me later. Awe..he was such a nice guy...NOT...he was a wolf in sheep's clothing, just waiting to get me back for something I had done or said, that I had no clue, ever happened in the first place. Give me a break here...at least tell me what's on your mind...don't stab me in the back...days, or in his case years later. That's f@%#&d up!

Okay...I have another one for you. I'm seeing this guy for about three months...and every time we get into a "discussion" and I don't say what he wants to hear, he says "I'm leaving!" Sometimes he would have tears in his eyes. OH COME ON...PLEASE!...what are we...three years old? I could just envision him taking his blankie and his binkie and going home to mommy! That'll fix me. This is another type of passive aggressive behavior. I can't tell you how pissed off this made me! I almost wished he had shut up, held it in, and took it out on me later. Okay...maybe it pissed me off because I might have abandonment issues, but that's besides the point.

I'm warning you girls...the passive aggressive man is the hardest of all the communication types to deal with. He doesn't lay his cards on the table...they are always up his sleeve...just waiting...