The Needy Man

This is the man that would do anything for you. He will go grocery shopping for you, buy you flowers for no reason, and even clean your house. He will also call you ten times a day, text you non-stop, and be waiting on your doorstep when you get home from work. At first, it's charming...you'll tell your friends...look at the romantic text he sent me...isn't he sweet? Oh...he's sweet all right, until you get busy and can't text him right back.

This is what happened to me. True story...I was dating this fireman...did I mention...he was HOT!? I could just imagine him pulling puppies out of a burning building...with no shirt on...sweat dripping off of his bulging muscles...soot on his face...sorry...I got a little carried away with my fantasy? Anyway, I met him on Match.com and he wanted to meet me right away, he offered to come by my work and just say "hi". Harmless enough, after all, he was attracted to my pictures and my witty phone conversation, how could I blame him? I was flattered. He showed up about 5 minutes later, wow...he must have been close...huh? Did he Google me? Who cares, he was HOT! We made a date for the next day, and the next, and...well...we started seeing each other..he worked 4 days on and 4 days off... I always thought that dating a fireman would be perfect because you could have the best of both worlds. You could hang out with him when he was off, and then you could have time to yourself...what could be better? The first week went pretty well. While he was at work he would call me and text me, after all it was new, and I was enjoying all of the attention. He even asked me down to the firehouse for dinner and a movie. That was fun, I got to meet all of the guys, and even help one with his Match profile. The next week I got extremely busy with work. Do you see what's coming here? I didn't have time to answer any of his texts, I had clients back to back. Mind you...he was at home with absolutely nothing to do, before me, he worked out incessantly, and was an obsessive tanner. When he met me I became his world. This one particular day,he started with the usual sweet texts..."thinking of you"..."miss you"...blah, blah, THEN..."too busy, huh?"..."why aren't you answering me?" Then came the needy, accusing, pathetic texts...like..."I knew you were like all of the rest"..."You're just a user"...and for the big finale.."Just throw my things away! ". First of all, I had no idea he had worked himself up into a hysterical mess until I was done with work and ready to go home. Like I said...I was busy...working! Imagine that, I was at work...WORKING! When I checked my phone I was shocked? What the hell? So...what did I do you ask? I did what any normal girl would do, I wasted no time. I went home, threw his shit in the trash compactor and hit the button. He had left an old Casio watch, a plastic soap container with soap, and a sweatshirt with his fire department logo on it. (I didn't actually throw the sweatshirt away,I'm not stupid, it was a nice thick comfy one) After that, I sent him a text telling him to lose my number, and never text me again! The next day...no surprise... he started sending me texts again, "I didn't mean it", "I was just upset", "give me another chance", "I promise I'll be better". ABSOLUTELY NOT! I have a life. Not to mention...DUDE...that was only two weeks, we barely knew each other! I know what your thinking, that I slept with him...nope...thank God for that! That is one good reason for waiting until you get to know someone. What would he have done if it had been three months, and we had...yuck...I don't even want to think about it.

These men are much too needy. They wrap their world up in you, and don't like it when they realize that you have a life of your own. Do not get confused, the wrapping might look good...be alert and look for the red flags...after all...nobodies that good looking.